Not long
ago I was in a used book store looking through the self-help section when I ran
across a title that had me laughing out loud.
It was, “I’m OK but You Suck!”. I
think it is a take off from the classic, I’m OK, Your OK. For me, it speaks to that human weakness of
righteous indignation.
Americans
like to be righteously indignant. I like
to be righteously indignant. We go to
movies where we can be sympathetic with the hero that has been done wrong and
is righteously indignant. All the Rambo
movies start with a guy that is quiet, soft spoken, minding his own business
and is wronged. And then heaven help the
town that crosses him because he is coming back to wreck havoc, mayhem and retribution
where ever he chooses.
We have
entire TV programs that “review” on-going court cases that point out the outrageous behavior of others and we can then go ballistic in a half dozen
directions pointing the blame and holding others at fault in soooo many ways.
I have to
be on notice to NOT become attached to such aversions in daily living. It is easy to get sucked into other people’s
misery. And then I too am
miserable. My peace and happiness then eludes
me.
I have been
visiting an inmate in prison who is probably in for life. Of course, there is plenty of drama drama in
daily prison life where a pod may house a hundred or more men. Yet he has found a way to rise above this
misery. When the perception of a wrong
is seen or heard, he tells himself or the person he is talking to, “Not My Story.”
We can have
compassion for others travails without getting emotionally caught up. It is called detached compassion. This is crucial to be able to purify the
mind and end our own suffering and quit spreading the misery to others.
Now for my
“True Confessions” story. When the Geo
Zimmerman/Trayvon Martin story broke, I was incensed. I read everything I could, which fed my
indignation. I even wrote to the mayor
and chief of police. Looking back, I can
see I was miserable and I shared my misery with the people around me. This negative self feeding closed loop soon
spilled into other parts of my life.
I found I
had to see this with greater kindness that soon allowed me to treat my own
shortfalls with similar kindness. I did
myself no good thing in choosing to be righteously indignant. I found I had to develop a balanced mind to
make good choices in daily living. And
that meant letting go of judgment.
Bottom
line: I figured out that I am really OK
because You really don’t SUCK.
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